Turn Rejection when Dating with HIV into Perfect Partner

Especially near the beginning of a new relationship dating with HIV or AIDS can be most worrying. Instead of dating being pleasurable and exciting, any joy or delight can become completely overshadowed by concern and deep felt worry over the grim possibility of rejection.

People get dumped or rejected for a vast number of reasons; some of these are fully under our control, as in our behaviour, whilst others unfortunately are not. However when one is rejected purely because of a health condition, feelings can become highly distraught. This is due to the fact that you have no control over your condition, and as in the case of AIDS or HIV, it will not disappear in time for your next relationship.

It is because of this that it is vital to actually see why this rejection has happened. In order to do this, you need to bear in mind that the world is jam packed full of people who do not like, or who cannot tolerate and sometimes even fear things or others that are different. In many cases the past stigma of both conditions has been passed on through the generations. This knowledge and even understanding does not make rejection of dating with HIV or AIDS any the less painful, but it does go a long way to show what type of person you were dating. And most importantly the rejection has shown you something very important; this person was not that special one you were seeking. So it has hastened a conclusion that you may have taken months to find out under other circumstances.

We know this because when someone finds true love, it becomes easy to tolerate anything. People and families fall out over this all the time. Mixed marriages, disabilities, differences in upbringing or past crimes are some examples. Real love means loving someone for who they are and accepting whatever package they come with.

When revealing that you are dating with HIV there will follow a stage of disbelief and questioning. Now is the time to ensure you have solid explanations regarding your condition and the risks and consequences. The majority of people are afraid of things they do not understand, therefore make sure you help them to understand and exhaust any fear. The likelihood is if they really liked you before you told them, then they will feel the same way after the revelation.

Regardless of the reaction stay calm and never allow anyone to make you feel any less of an individual. Your right to love and in turn to be loved is as strong as anyone else’s. Value this and ensure that you choose a precious person to give your love to. For that individual should feel privileged to be picked by you.

Should rejection come your way, be thankful. Remember it is uncontrollable, but your reaction is not. Instead of letting your condition turn you into a recluse use it to find out exactly how others feel about you. Use the crystal ball that dating with HIV affords you, to gain insight into the person you are dating. Their rejection of you is a failing in them, and makes you incompatible anyway. So be thankful that you found out early and never lose sight of the end goal. Remember we all have to kiss a lot of frogs before finally we are presented with our princess or prince.