How To Do With The Uncontrollable Things

All you need to is to turn on CNN to know how out of the control world is.
First there have the big things in the world such as war, terrorism, and famine. Yet, there also have the smaller things that you can not control such the bad weather to your son or your daughter. If you can control yourself well, and the person who have anything just so, in the right place in just the right way and the feeling out of control is the most stressful things that will ever happen to you.
You have to accept the golden role of life has not changed, and never will: Things happen. You can not control much of it. What you can control is how you react to it and how much it will affect you physically.
1. Distinguish what you cannot control from what you can. Then you need to direct your energies to affecting the latter, and frankly accepting the former. This sound simple, but you will be amazed at how many people still think they can control traffic, or the weather or the stock market. Make a list of all things that are out of your control no matter how hard you try, and place it on your refrigerator. Certainly you can care about these things and manage to influence their consequence. But it is essential that you handle your emotional well-being from these things you can not change.
2. When you notice the things feel out of control, clean a drawer or a closet. It is useful for you to emotion. If you head that something happen to your relatives, you clean out your closet. It is the thing that I can control.
 3. Start with a new hobby. Mastering a fresh skill, it can be as simple as learning to knit, can give you a sense of control to your life.
4. When the bad things happen, sit down and write down what you might have done differently. The self-assessment is not to beat up on yourself; it is an opportunity to tell you that you can not control everything, but you can control you. What could I do that the situation can turn out more to my liking? Therefore, if you are given a bad evaluation at your work, you should not react it with blaming your boss or blaming you are unlucky. Instead, you should be honest with yourself about what you could have done differently the year, went to the work on time to gain the better result. Knowing you role in the situation can help you realize that the world is quite a controllable place, in fact.
5. When stuffs feel out of control, choose one thing in your life to work on that can give you a different feeling. For example, begin a workout, write the things in your diary one day a week, and make your checkbook balanced.