 |
Articles Area
Home Login / Register Browse Articles Search Articles Submit an Article Get RSS Feeds Add Free Article Content Most Viewed Latest Articles Article RatingsGuidelines
Authors PublishersPartners
ArticlesAreaHow to Get a Number and Not Have It Flake!
Submitted by Andrew on Friday Dec 22, 2006 and viewed 542 timesTotal Word Count: 479
Author Rating: NA
Rate this article
|
Publisher
|
Print
Going for a number is a high-pressure moment for most guys, they dont know when to do it and they dont know whether the girl will accept or reject them. Even after getting a number, it can be difficult to convert that into a date or another meeting. Heres what to do!
Going for a number is a high-pressure moment for most guys, they dont know when to do it and they dont know whether the girl will accept or reject them. Even after getting a number, it can be difficult to convert that into a date or another meeting. Heres what to do!
1. Conversation Leading to a Number Close
Most guys make the mistake of making small talk for a period of time and then just coming out and asking for a number. This is wrong. A connection can be (but usually isnt) built with small talk but it takes a lot longer.
Instead the conversation needs to be directed towards the goal at all times. A conversation which is directed at getting a number needs to be based around connections and common interests.
Example Questions which establish a connection, or common interest:
- What does she do when she isnt working? How does she spend her time?
- What food does she like? What places does she like to go to in the evening? Is she a party girl? Does she like the arts? What is something she would like to do but hasnt yet (eg salsa class)?
These are basic common interest questions that lead to a possible connection. Think of your own, there are hundreds. Taking two opposite examples, let me show you how to lead into a number close from a general conversation:
You: What places do you like to go in the evening?
Her: I like club/bar X.
You: Cool, its good there, have you ever been to club Y?
Her: Yeah/No
You: Well me and some friends are going there on X day, you should come.
Her: Yeah/okay
You: Excellent, whats your number*.
Or
You: What do you like to do when you arent working?
Her: I like to go to the theatre/exhibitions/museums/balet.
You: Have you been to that new show/exhibition/whatever
Her: No
You: Me neither, we should go
Her: Okay sure
You: Great, give me your number*
*You never ask outright for a number, it should flow naturally, and the close should be assumed.
How about if you cant find a connection, dont have time to, or for some other reason just dont have a conversation like the above? You can use the universal:
You: Youre cool/Its interesting talking to you, we should hang out.
Her: Yeah.
You: [hands phone] What are you doing on Thursday?**
Finally, most guys get numbers that flake. So.
2. How to minimise Flakeage:
Enter your number in her phone too.
Have a connection or something you can do together as described above.
And most importantly:
**Arrange a date there and then.
If you have already arranged a date, she can be thinking about it, and when you call she is expecting it. Use these tips and all your good interactions should end in solid number closes.
1. Conversation Leading to a Number Close
Most guys make the mistake of making small talk for a period of time and then just coming out and asking for a number. This is wrong. A connection can be (but usually isnt) built with small talk but it takes a lot longer.
Instead the conversation needs to be directed towards the goal at all times. A conversation which is directed at getting a number needs to be based around connections and common interests.
Example Questions which establish a connection, or common interest:
- What does she do when she isnt working? How does she spend her time?
- What food does she like? What places does she like to go to in the evening? Is she a party girl? Does she like the arts? What is something she would like to do but hasnt yet (eg salsa class)?
These are basic common interest questions that lead to a possible connection. Think of your own, there are hundreds. Taking two opposite examples, let me show you how to lead into a number close from a general conversation:
You: What places do you like to go in the evening?
Her: I like club/bar X.
You: Cool, its good there, have you ever been to club Y?
Her: Yeah/No
You: Well me and some friends are going there on X day, you should come.
Her: Yeah/okay
You: Excellent, whats your number*.
Or
You: What do you like to do when you arent working?
Her: I like to go to the theatre/exhibitions/museums/balet.
You: Have you been to that new show/exhibition/whatever
Her: No
You: Me neither, we should go
Her: Okay sure
You: Great, give me your number*
*You never ask outright for a number, it should flow naturally, and the close should be assumed.
How about if you cant find a connection, dont have time to, or for some other reason just dont have a conversation like the above? You can use the universal:
You: Youre cool/Its interesting talking to you, we should hang out.
Her: Yeah.
You: [hands phone] What are you doing on Thursday?**
Finally, most guys get numbers that flake. So.
2. How to minimise Flakeage:
Enter your number in her phone too.
Have a connection or something you can do together as described above.
And most importantly:
**Arrange a date there and then.
If you have already arranged a date, she can be thinking about it, and when you call she is expecting it. Use these tips and all your good interactions should end in solid number closes.
ArticleSource: ArticlesAlley.com
Number of ratings: 0
Rating: 0
Rating: 0