Like several heterosexual children, your gay child also would not be ready for a lecture on safe sex from his parents. But this bit of advice you cannot withhold from your gay child as more people are perishing of AIDS these days than cancer and accidents.
Like
several heterosexual children, your gay child also would not be ready for a
lecture on safe sex from his parents. But this bit of advice you cannot
withhold from your gay child as more people are perishing of AIDS these days
than cancer and accidents.
With
nearly a tenth of the world’s population being gay, the number is over half a
million. Despite increasing levels of awareness campaigns by self-help and
support groups, the number a AIDS related deaths continues to rise. Before
making your gay child aware of the impending danger, you should arm yourself
with sufficient facts and figures. While surfing the internet you can come
across several portals where you can get ideas and suggestions upfront. Try and
look up as many online sites as possible even if it makes you feel miserable.
Unless
you know the true picture and how other parents have dealt with the issue, you
will not be successful with your gay child. Usually your gay child or for that
matter any heterosexual child would not like the idea of a parent rushing through
with their advice. You have to choose an appropriate time and moment to get the
conversation going. If you are not very gradual about or patient about it, then
your gay child might think you don’t know his condition and perhaps still
uncomfortable with his sexual orientation.
While
putting across your point to your gay child you cannot appear invasive.
Everyone treasures his privacy and thinks what he is doing is best for him.
Although awareness levels are high nowadays and are expressed everywhere, some
of those who are young may get tired of too much control and advice. Your
parenting skill will come up for a serious test while convincing your gay child
to take precautionary measures.
Not
only do you need to explain, you have to listen to your gay son as well. He may
have a different take on the issue. It can also be hard for your gay child to
discuss the subject of his personal behavior with you. Far from appearing too
opinionated or judgmental, you should be seen as showing a casual interest to begin
with. As your gay son may be inhibitive from the beginning because of the
social perceptions about his relationship, you have to extra cautious.
Your idea of safety and to some extent living
life may not be the same as their idea. Instead of harping too much on the
issue of gay relationship and the health hazards, you should keep the
conversation limited to safe sex and protection from the disease. It may also
happen your gay child is already aware of the consequences and has factored I
safety measures. You should not prejudge your gay child while making him aware
about AIDS.
| About the author |
Emily Jäger is 41 years old, loving wife and mother of a 19 year old gay son. First she suffered a lot when heard that her child is gay, but Emily got over it and now she wants to teach/help parents how to cope with the fact that your child is gay. Click here to read more how to deal with your gay son. |
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